Why didn’t someone tell me how much I would enjoy some of the changes that have happened to me in midlife?! Did they try but I ignored them? Worrying about staying young, I must have blocked out those conversations. While there are plenty of things about a woman growing older to not look forward to (hello, hot flashes!) there are many things to happily anticipate and enjoy! Therefore, I want to share with you 5 Midlife Changes I love!
Here are the 5 Midlife Changes I am Loving!
Time Slows Down
In my younger years, there was never enough time in the day to get everything done. As a young mom I never felt settled when the day was done. All the things undone ran through my head at the end of my day. I began making my “to do” list for the next day. How exhausting!
However, now in midlife it all seems so much simpler! The laundry is still there the next day. Same with the cleaning. Now acknowledging I still have plenty of things on my plate to do, it is okay if they do not all get done. The days are no longer spent in the state of constant “rush”. Instead of feeling defeated at the end of my day, I feel accomplished.
I Love Enjoying the Great Outdoors
Working multiple jobs, while raising two girls on my own, taking walks in nature was not a thought in my mind. Mowing my yard and planting flowers, let alone WATERING them was something I did not make time for. Looking back, I am quite sure my neighbors loathed me! At home, my time was spent on homework, baths, laundry and things that just were not much fun.
In fact, now watering and mowing the yard is fun. Enjoying my flowers bloom is satisfying. Furthermore, I do not mind shoveling snow and managing the ice, to make sure no limbs are broken. From sunshine filled days to crisp fall mornings or allergy filled spring days to freezing snow days, I enjoy them all! Speaking of blooming look at my Hen and Chick plant beginning to thrive!
Additionally, please check out my post outlining the 5 Reasons Hen and Chick Plants are Awesome here.
Lack of Concern for Others Judgement
We all know the voice in our head that shouts at us to acknowledge other people’s judgmental opinions. Causing us to doubt ourselves we being to believe and value those opinions. I mean God forbid I do not consider what Cheryl, four cubicles down from mine, thinks about my new hair color.
I simply ignore them all. All the negative opinions about myself, my children, my family and friends. I do not care what others think of me. What matters is what I think of me. With this in mind, I still strive to do right by my friends and family, making sure I nurture those relationships. As a result of this newly found thought freedom, life is much more positive!
This is a hard topic for most aging women. We spend SO MANY years fighting our bodies. Dieting, starving, trying every gimmick out there to stay thin and look young. None of them worked! Why were we wasting our glorious young years on that crap!? I wish I could tell my younger self to just stop!
There comes a time when we have to get real with ourselves. If I walk three more miles and my butt looks a bit more toned, will that really matter to anyone that loves and cares for me? Probably not. In all honesty, I still struggle with this topic. I am doing better at body acceptance and cannot wait till I master the thought process around it! I continually read about the topic of body acceptance. One of my favorite books on the topic is This is Me by This is Us actress Chrissy Metz. She is AMAZING! It is available in both hard cover and kindle. I purchased mine in hard cover because I love referring back to inspiring phrases and reminders. Plus, something about holding a book in your hand and reading it feels so much better than on an electronic device.
I Love ME Time
I don’t know about anyone else, but I actively have to stop and correct my thought process when I feel guilty for doing something for myself. Taking luxurious baths, long naps, doing my hair and nails, taking trips or buying myself something I want just because I can sometimes feel like it’s too much. On the other hand, I totally deserve it! However, because my daughters are no longer little requiring all my attention, I now have more time for selfcare and acceptance, something I did not make time for in my younger years.
In conclusion, I challenge you to find 5 Midlife Changes You Love in your own life. Not everything about aging is negative. There are so many things to look forward to and cherish!