Society suggests that women in midlife abide by a specific set of rules or expectations. As a consequence, when these expectations and so-called rules are ignored, the judgement and pressure for women is immense. Even more unfortunate, midlife women often experience guilt and anxiety when it comes to how they are expected to behave in society. I am here to tell you this is completely ridiculous! I came up with a brief list of Important Midlife Expectations to Ignore!
Important Midlife Expectations to Ignore
Midlife Style Expectations to Ignore
I am starting with this expectation because I find it the hardest. How many times do you see an outfit and think ‘I wonder if I am too old to wear that?’. What is worse, how many times do you see someone else wearing an outfit and think ‘she is way too old to wear that!”. I do this all the time. In either event, this is because society is so good at dictating to us as women what is appropriate to wear dependent upon our age. If you feel good in it, wear it!
Midlife Hair Expectations to Ignore
I happen to have long hair, a hairstyle I have worn throughout my 20’s, 30’s and now into my 40’s. Additionally, I color my grey roots. This is a controversial topic when it comes to societies expectations on midlife women. Personally, I love my natural brown hair color, sometimes enhanced with lighter highlights and this is why I choose to color new grey outgrowth. On the other hand, I also love the way women look when they grow out their grey hair. I find it elegant and lovely! One day I will let my grey grow. Today is not yet that day though. Women are allowed to wear their hair however they want, regardless their age!
Midlife Homeownership Expectations to Ignore
Growing up, people I considered adults, all had established homes. Additionally, I related homeownership to an event that took place in midlife or when I became the standard definition of an adult. I was so wrong! I know many young adults that have purchased magnificent homes. There are also midlife adults I know that decide to rent, not to mention some that live the van life! I often wonder how cool it would be to drive a van to new locations, park and live wherever you decide to stop. That sounds awesome! With this in mind, and as long as you are a productive member of society, live how you want!
Midlife Profession Expectations to Ignore
Why does society expect women in midlife to have ‘grown up’ professions? Not everyone wants to have a profession that society deems adults should have. Besides, there are often circumstances that can prevent people from performing specific jobs. Our human lives on earth are short. Do not spend it in a profession that makes you miserable! As long as you can support yourself and those that depend upon you, do something you love!
Midlife Social Status Expectations to Ignore
I am proud to say that I am a pro at ignoring this expectation! As women, we can feel left out when not included in a large social circle. Our friendships in midlife go through so many changes that we need to adjust to. For more information around midlife friendship changes, check out my post on 7 Reasons we Lose Friends in Midlife. Additionally, society expects midlife women to be married, or at the very least, coupled up. As was previously stated, life is short. Do not spend it with friends or significant others in situations that make you miserable! Spend time with the people that make you feel loved and amazing!
In conclusion, society learns how to treat midlife women based upon what we allow. Wear what makes you happy. Style your hair as you please. Live how and where you want. If you do something you love, you will not work a day in your life. Spend time with those that make you shine from within. Ignore the expectations the world places on midlife women!